Does your sex life suck? Would you be surprised that it could be linked to your finances? There was a survey done by MONEY of 1000 people and it was shown that the couples with “hot” or “very good” sex lives were those who trusted their partners when it came to money.
Here are 5 ways Money could be killing your sex life.
One of the most common characteristics I see when I have couples struggling financially is secrets. One has an account the other doesn’t know about, someone makes a purchase and hides it from the other or wasn’t quite honest about how much debt they really had. It doesn’t matter what the secret about money is but secrets seem to always have a way of coming out and not in a good way. Sometimes one spouse controls the money to hide information from the other.
Do you guilt your partner when they spend too much money? Do you feel guilt when you spend money? Are you guilty of stretching the truth of where the new purse came from? Guilt isn’t sexy.
- Keeping it separate.
I had a client who was convinced that everything was fine with their finances; they split everything down the middle. The problem was he made 3x more than she did and spent it about the same way. She had no idea where all the money was going, why they couldn’t save but never even asked to see what was happening in his bank accounts. How can you feel like a team and a couple when you aren’t working together? You can have separate accounts but if you are truly working together and living a life together there has to be honest sharing of the information between the accounts.
- Hiding money.
Why are you hiding money from your spouse? Do you secretly believe the relationship won’t work so you are looking for an “out”? Do you not trust them and think they will spend it if they know about it?
Lying about loaning money to friends and family, about how much something cost, about where the money was coming from, about how much money you actually make, or about the amount of debt. Distorting the truth about money can turn quickly to lying about other things and become a troublesome pattern in your life.
MONEY is one of the leading causes of divorce. I’m not saying talking about money or agreeing about finances will make your sex life jump through the roof ,but everything is related. If you aren’t feeling good about yourself, so you shop. Then you lie to your spouse about the shopping. This is a self-destruct pattern in your life.
Changing the way you communicate to your significant other about money is not rocket science.
By helping you understand your financial patterns and behaviors I can help you discover underlying issues and work with you to change them into a positive.
Many of my clients saying that learning to communicate with their spouse about money has transferred into other areas of their life and the understanding has changed their world.